How many times as wives do we have to clean up a mess that our husband has made? Or as a single have you witnessed this with your parents or married friends?
In Samuel Chapter 25 we meet a woman who cleans up a big mess made by her husband Nabal.
“One of Nabal’s young men informed Abigail, Nabal’s wife: “Look, David sent messengers from the wilderness to greet our master, but he yelled at them. The men treated us well. When we were in the field, we weren’t harassed and nothing of ours was missing the whole time we were living among them. They were a wall around us, both day and night, the entire time we were herding the sheep. Now consider carefully what you must do, because there is certain to be trouble for our master and his entire family. He is such a worthless fool nobody can talk to him! ”1 Samuel 25:14-17
Nabal misstreaded David’s men and in return David and 400 men were on their way to wipe out Nabal’s entire family! Whoa! Talk about consequences for being mean!! Lets see how Abigail reacts.
“Abigail hurried, taking 200 loaves of bread, two skins of wine, five butchered sheep, a bushel of roasted grain, 100 clusters of raisins, and 200 cakes of pressed figs, and loaded them on donkeys.”1 Samuel 25:18
Let me just point out that that is alot of food and probably required alot of work to prepare…
“Then she said to her male servants, “Go ahead of me. I will be right behind you.” But she did not tell her husband Nabal…When Abigail saw David, she quickly got off the donkey and fell with her face to the ground in front of David. She fell at his feet and said, “The guilt is mine, my Lord, but please let your servant speak to you directly. Listen to the words of your servant. My Lord should pay no attention to this worthless man Nabal, for he lives up to his name: His name is Nabal, and stupidity is all he knows. I, your servant, didn’t see my Lord’s young men whom you sent. Now my Lord, as surely as the Lord lives and as you yourself live, it is the Lord who kept you from participating in bloodshed and avenging yourself by your own hand. May your enemies and those who want trouble for my Lord be like Nabal. Accept this gift your servant has brought to my Lord, and let it be given to the young men who follow my Lord. Please forgive your servant’s offense, for the Lord is certain to make a lasting dynasty for my Lord because he fights the Lord ’s battles. Throughout your life, may evil not be found in you. “When someone pursues you and attempts to take your life, my Lord’s life will be tucked safely in the place where the Lord your God protects the living. However, He will fling away your enemies’ lives like stones from a sling. When the Lord does for my Lord all the good He promised and appoints you ruler over Israel, there will not be remorse or a troubled conscience for my Lord because of needless bloodshed or my Lord’s revenge. And when the Lord does good things for my Lord, may you remember me your servant.” 1 Samuel 25:19-31
Abigail was quick to react when she saw that her husband had done wrong and she also chose her words wisely when speaking to David. She used wisdom and discernment and also humility with her words in order to save her household.
“Then David said to Abigail, “Praise to the Lord God of Israel, who sent you to meet me today! Your discernment is blessed, and you are blessed. Today you kept me from participating in bloodshed and avenging myself by my own hand. Otherwise, as surely as the Lord God of Israel lives, who prevented me from harming you, if you had not come quickly to meet me, Nabal wouldn’t have had any men left by morning light.” Then David accepted what she had brought him and said, “Go home in peace. See, I have heard what you said and have granted your request.”1 Samuel 25:19-35
David saw Abigail’s wisdom and humility and called her blessed, he also spared her life and the lives of her household. Poor Nabal was struck down by God and Abigail goes on to become one of David’s wives. A great reward for being quick to action and using words wisely! What we can learn from Abigail is that as Christians we are called to stand apart, Abigail could have ignored her husbands wrong doing and brushed it off as “not her problem” but she didnt. She quickly humbled herself, prepared a feast and hand delivered it to David, along with some wise and humble words! She actually took the blame for her husband’s actions when she met David. What situation in your life today could use some kind action and sweet words speinkled on top? Even if it is just covering the situation in some prayer! Our words and actions matter and as Christians who claim to walk with Jesus, our words and actions are being watched by others in our daily lives!